Re-Surfaced Thought(s)?

A friend of mine reminded me a thought that i have almost forgotten in my mind. What i think the real meaning of forgiving and forgetting means. To forgive,it jus means to think in the way the person who hurt you in a opposite way of what really happened. For example,a person who made u feel sad. Don't think it as the person really made u sad because he/she makes u feel sad. In contrast,think of it as the person helped u understand what is the meaning of feeling sad,and at the same time highlight what it feels like to be happy. So,in the end,what really happened is that one is feels glad,because there really isn't anything that makes people feel the other way anyway. So,since there's really nothing to forgive about,is there a need to forgive? Do we really need the words of apology,or the fact that we have to know that we have to let ourselves know that we have forgiven somebody? Is this really necessary?


To forget,it seems very out of point here in view of this context due to the fact that to achieve the above attitude,it is one of the hardest and almost impossible to achieve,for me at the very least. This is one of the things that is the hardest to remember yet the easiest to forget. Maybe this attitude really doesn't appeal to anyone,since it is the hardest to remember and the easiest to forget,yet it is something i think that is the best way for people to understand and live with each other.


Well,that's all for now. Hope this thought will be able to be learnt by people in future. Or should it,being such a obnoxious way of thinking in terms of forgiving.